My Outward Bound Experience
5/6/2016
by Nate Bender
For as long as I can remember, new adventures have held an
important place in my life journey. My innate quest for new experiences have
carried me on escapades, which tested my physical and emotional endurance, be
it through competitive sports, military training or personal growth excursions.
This life story takes the reader on one such an experience.
Since my 40th birthday I have evolved into
defining my aging progressions in five-year increments, much like marking our
high school reunions on five-year intervals.
Imbedded in these logs are milestones and memorable undertakings.
In 1993 I turned fifty, and commemorated that mark by
running in a Thanksgiving Day five-mile Turkey Trot race starting and finishing
at the Cleveland, Ohio Lake Front airport.
For me, each mile I covered represented one decade of my life, along
with building an ever-increasing appetite for our turkey day feast awaiting my
return home! That race became the last
one for me to run, as my aging knees said ‘enough!’
Five years later when I turned 55, I had a desire to yet
again test my man hood while revitalizing any youth left in my body, and signed
up for a 10-day Outward Bound sailing experience in Maine. This sailing adventure became doubly
challenging on a primitive twin mast, open cockpit wooden sailboat. This 30-foot boat had to house fifteen people
for 9 days, as one day and night was spent on an island. Food provisions for the trip’s duration had
to be stored in the confines of the boat.
And, we had to find space for each of our gear bags containing personal
items and foul weather garments.
Additionally, we had to find space for maybe ten wooden oars, to be employed
in the absence of wind. Oh, and the boat
had to accommodate a makeshift five-gallon-bucket-toilet, barely made private
in front of the main mast head in the bow of the boat. I can attest to the fact space on and in the
boat was fully used!
These
traditional/primitive centerboard sailboats required teamwork and leadership. On an open boat with no cabin and no engine,
we lived in close proximity to each other, using only wind and oars as
propulsion. We rotated responsibilities, from cooking to steering to
navigating, tasks which developed learning the crafts of maneuvering under
sail, coastal navigation, rowing and living aboard a small open boat. At night, we slept on deck, on top of our
assembled oars and other stable parts of the boat, comforted by rubber
mattresses and under a tarp. We adhered
to a nighttime schedule for shared anchor watch duties, some of which were under
brilliant night skies. Since I was
usually the first to bed down at night, I frequently chose the 4:00 to 6:00 AM watch
to catch the rising sun, offering time for reflection on the life I had lived
and the course I was on.
I was the oldest member, by far, of the group, save for one
of the two leaders being close behind at age 50. No natural social bonding occurred in the
beginning, so I sought to merely fit in and carry out whatever duties were
required. The group was coed, ranging in
ages 18 to 38, making for some interesting sights around the calls of nature,
marked by the women extending their bare behinds over the boat’s edge to
relieve themselves, in lieu of using the ‘porta-potty’ on board.
The first day launch was memorable in that the wind was
brisk and sailing on Penobscot Bay’s frigid waters was exhilarating, filling my
senses in the process. Within the first
hour after setting out, we encountered a strong rainstorm, complete with stiff winds
that required reefing of the sails and donning our rubber foul weather gear. Two of the teenage women soon became unsettled
by all the discomfort, and began to cry and plead for a course withdrawal.
Two scenarios stand out for me over the course’s duration: One
involved daily ‘baths’ in frigid waters by jumping over board for a quick
dip. Invigorating it was and cleansing
too! In the course of getting back in
the boat I rejected all efforts for assistance, instead, I relied on my own
strength and tactics. For this, I
received kudos from the leaders, which validated my still possessing some
youthful vigor. During our daylong stay
on Hurricane Island the bathing task was made a little more challenging….we had
to jump into the still frigid waters from a twenty-foot high platform on
shore. It was shocking having to descend
deeper into the water!
The second scenario involved each of us experiencing
solitude on the island. We were dispensed
a shelter-half, a bottle of water and a partial loaf of bread, then instructed
to find a site suitable for foraging wild foods and a twelve-hour over-night
stint. This encounter with myself
connected me to the realization that I’m at peace with myself around the life I
had lived. I also discovered evidence
that I needed to retire in five years and venture into a new unknown (writing
has become one of the unknowns!).
Upon our return to the starting point in Rockland, I
had time to bid farewell to my fellow sojourners, complete with exchanging strong
embraces and receiving acknowledgements of my humanity. The departure became
tender and validated the merits of undergoing an Outward Bound adventure. My manhood was still in tact, and residuals
of youthful vigor was captured and embraced!
In the bus ride back to Portland I was filled with an
insatiable craving for a lobster dinner!
So what did I do? I feasted on a
double order serving of such!