"An honorable human relationship is a process, delicate, ... often terrifying to both persons involved,
a process of refining the truths they tell each other.
It is important to do this because it breaks down human self-delusion and isolation.
It is important to do this because in so doing we do justice to our own complexity.
It is important to do this because we can count on so few people to go that hard way with us."
What about the effect of 'real love,' where fear is overcome?